Thursday, March 17, 2011

True Grit

Being dead sucks more than losing an eye, but losing an eye still sucks. It's for sure now that Nick will not regain sight in his left eye, but he's had a month to get used to the idea and is handling that part well. Although it means an end to his plans to fly in Europe, he'll still be able to fly in the the States so this is not career-ending. At the moment he just wants it out because it will mean relief for both eyes and allow him to start living more normally again.

I asked the girls how they were feeling about it all and Acacia replied, "Can you bring the eye home?" Nick told her he'd inquire about that, adding that it would be easier to make eyeball soup for dinner with an eyeball. Yum.

We had thought this operation could be done here in Durango because, as Nick said, "All they need is a spoon to scoop it out." And the eye doc said he could pretty much do that, but then none of the muscles and other intricate workings would function for the glass eye. The aim is to have the prosthetic eye move with the natural one.

So... back in the car, but hopefully this time to Albuquerque, home to a skilled ophthalmologic surgeon, not to mention half the distance to Denver. Sadly, it's the insurance company who'll ultimately decide where we go; health is, of course, all about profit margins. Not sure if they'll get us in this week, seeing as it's already Thursday, but if not, then early next week. The operation itself doesn't take too long, but the whole process will take a few months I believe. They need to put in a phony fake first, to retain the socket's shape while swelling goes down, then get measured for the glass eye, and I don't know how long it takes for them to create the custom eye. Really, I have no idea what I'm talking about. Unfortunately by the time this is all done, I'm going to know way more than I ever wanted to about poking an eye out.


4 comments:

  1. Dear Kim,
    I visited you and your family back in 2005 w/ my wife, Anne, and our children Clara Louise and Peter.
    I've just read your entire blog - whew, what a story... I'm so glad that Nick made it and is still still able to fly (and go skiing etc.). Sorry to read about the eye...
    Incredible how cool Cayenne and Acacia handled the situation. Our daughter, Clara Louise, has of course grown at the same speed, so she's turning 9 in 2 weeks.
    Take care and best wishes for Nick (from all of us)
    Martin N. Andersen

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  2. Hi dear cousin,
    Reading your blog is a good way to keep contact and being aware of your situation.... Hope everything will be alright with Nick and with you!
    Love,
    Caroline

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  3. Nick;
    Seeing you yesterday I just wanted to burst into tears of joy. You are one of the finest pilots on the planet and no one but you could have walked away from such an accident. I can't imagine what you've been through and what it means to lose an eye. But knowing Kim still has her husband, Cayenne and Acacia still have their Papa and I still have my flight instructor brings immense joy and gratitude.
    Kim, you are incredible. Reading your blog and all you have walked thru and still maintain your sense of humor and sense of perspective is inspiring.
    If there is ANYTHING we can do please call on us. With Love, Suzanne Cartier Bowker

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  4. Kim - what an amazing family. I was having a hard day, thought of you and checked out your blog ... guess what ... turns out my day isn't so bad after all. And the grace with which you are coping, and sharing is truly, truly - well, there just isn't a word for it. Hold your family tight and continue to protect them all Mama Bear. Kathy.

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